What's a bigot?

In the passionate wake of Prop 8, many people who oppose gay marriage have been labeled bigots. Some of them actually are bigots, many of them not. So what exactly is a bigot?

The dictionary definition is "a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices, especially one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance."

Another really good description of anti-gay bigotry comes from Andrew Sullivan in his 1995 book, Virtually Normal:

"A person who holds up a sign saying "God Hates Fags"; who finds association with homosexuals repugnant simply because they are attracted to people of the same gender; who mistreats, despises, or seeks to injure homosexuals because he believes them to be incompletely human; who stalks, assaults, or murders homosexuals out of passion or fear or unaccountable hatred..."

An anti-gay bigot is someone who views gays as less than human and who allows that view to affect how they treat gays.

A bigot is NOT just anyone who disagrees with your views on gay marriage. So can we please stop labeling everyone who disagrees with us bigots?